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Parent Intuition

“How did you find out your child had cancer?” Most parents will be asked this at some point. The prevalent theme you will find is that it wasn’t easy, and the journey to diagnosis was long and frustrating. The frustration of parents who knew there was something wrong with their child and just wanted to be believed.

It is not uncommon that prior to diagnosis there are many visits to the family GP (or any GP they could get in to), and possibly trips to Emergency in the middle of the night when concern overshadowed sleep.  There’s a probability that the parent had to exert some authority with the professionals (AKA “chucking a wobbly”) before someone finally believed that they may be right. Finally, taking notice of their desperate pleading that something was wrong, and doing some further investigation.

Childhood cancer has many smokescreens it hides behind. Leukaemia can be masked by the symptoms of a common cold or flu. A double-edged sword if it’s winter and everyone has a virus.  Achy joints, swollen lymph nodes, fevers, feeling weak and tired. “It’s just a virus. Your child will be better in a few weeks.”

A brain tumour shields itself behind the guise of gastro, clumsiness, forgetfulness, and can also leave the child feeling tired and weak.  A child vomiting every time they wake up, or listing a little to the left when they walk. Often misdiagnosed. "It’s just an ear infection. It’ll pass.”

Due to the age bracket of children who are diagnosed, Sarcoma (Ewing’s and Osteosarcoma) can conceal itself behind the cloak of growing pains.  What pre-teen or teen doesn’t suffer growing pains?  If it isn’t that, you can bet the pain can be explained away as a minor sport injury. Unless there is a significant lump to be investigated, it can be a drawn-out process for the concerned parents.

Neuroblastoma, a tumour of the sympathetic system, can conceal itself behind gastro (Diarrhea is caused by the hormones released by the tumour).  On the flipside, “It could be constipation,” says the doctor, who palpates the tummy for a tumour they think is a bowel motion waiting to happen.

The truth of the matter is, the signs are there. It would seem that it’s a brave doctor who might decide to think outside the box of diagnosis.  Doctors don’t want to scare parents, they don’t want to raise concern.  But it doesn’t matter – there comes a point where a parent knows.  The niggling voice in the back of your head that you cannot shut off, telling you to keep on pushing.

Parental intuition is a strong force. As parents, we know our children inside and out.  We know how our children are when they’re unwell.  We can tell if there’s something more serious going on.  The little voice is there, but we try to push it aside, telling ourselves … "Don’t be ridiculous." 

Even in those early stages, we ourselves, want to believe it’s simply a virus. The alternative is unthinkable.  But, as time passes and your child continues to be unwell, and you’re dismissed again by the doctor, you become stronger. Becoming their voice, their advocate. You know it’s more serious than you want. The voice that you try to ignore becomes a scream, a desperate scream that you can’t hide any longer. "Why don’t they know what it is?"

It’s lack of awareness.  Awareness in the community, and awareness by doctors.  People don’t want to know, or even consider that children get cancer. Creating awareness is borne from the pain.  The pain that is felt by the people it touches.  The very ones who become advocates.  The Childhood Cancer movement has gained momentum over the last few years, but it’s still a distant blip behind the other campaigns that flood the market.

It’s a fine line between raising awareness and creating paranoia.  The aim isn’t to have parents clogging up emergency wards with sick kids. One bruise too many … vomiting … felt extra sleepy that day … have gone off their food … complained of a headache … sore tummy … sore legs … persistent fever … the list goes on.  Most of these are stock standard for kids, and thankfully, usually nothing more than normal childhood illness.

We want to raise awareness so people are aware that childhood cancer exists, so concerned parents can have their child diagnosed quickly. Before the Cancer has progressed. Early diagnosis offers a better outcome for the child.

Parental intuition is strong.  We all need to listen to that voice in our head, the one that whispers or screams when we suspect something is wrong.  Advocate strongly for your child if you feel there’s something more than a normal childhood illness.

Don’t ever doubt your parental intuition.